Women Power?

I am not generalizing entire mass of society but I am pertaining this to the majority of the people who show their shocked faces when they would be informed that its a baby girl. I have seen educated people with their masked faces try to hide expressions but become mute for a while. People behave like that because they know that ''The emotional, sexual, and psychological stereotyping of females begins when the doctor says, "It's a girl." ~Shirley Chisholm. Its very sad state of affair that female feticide stills  happens in this so-called modern era and people kill their daughters, how could they do so?

The psychology behind this approach is  they have seen girl dying in womb, if given a chance to survive than she might become pray for the sexually deprived cruel species , that species would never look at her age but on gender, they might destroy her zest for living and may be she would be thrown in gutters or deserted area; left her crying in midst of life and death and the next day she would become breaking news for news channel and if not then might be selled in masala news.

If she is fortunate to escape from these turmoil, then she would get married and burnt for dowry by her in laws. Our daily newspaper says it all.

Just to release stress , I would like you to go in the past and think about Sita mata, daughter of king Janak and wife of Lord Shri Ram, she proved herself throughout her life, being a princess, a queen and wife of Lord Shri Ram  suffered throughout her life and given agniparaksha to prove that she is pure for the sake of Maryada. I firmly believe in god but its an ironical state that women has been treated like this from ages.

Now I would like to share with you a story; based on real life. ...I have been told by my friend a story of two women belonged to a huge giant family. Let me give them name kiran and simran. Simran was a selfless lady, would always devoted her time to meet the demands and needs of that family and she was happy.Family members took her for granted, she has been treated like a housekeeper and not as a family member but she was too innocent and so much involved in all that, that she never felt it. But when division of the family and division of house happened; she lost herself completely; forgot all her roles as a wife,mother,daughter in law,sister in law....and went into deep depression .She started showing extreme behaviour ....she used to be submissive at one time and at the other moment she used to burst in a fit of rage. Can you imagine how it would affected her kids, their childhood was at stake and they became insecure yet mature....too mature for their age. I have read in psychology that mother transfer her fears,anxiety and other emotions as well and that happened with those kids too. After suffering so much in her life, she silently left the world,the world which became hell for her .

The other women in the same family was Kiran and she was the lady of the house,though she was living in the same joint family but the from the very beginning she drew lines and never worked for other family members.She was focussed on her family and her kids and was just a mother and wife. She was the boss of the house and smart in handling matters.She used to give orders to Simran and get all her work done.She is still alive,happy and healthy even in the oldage.Nobody ever dared to take advantage of her.Her story reminded me the famous quote by Roseanne Barr

''The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it. ''

That was the story of two different women playing their roles differently.So tell me What is the moral of the story?this question I would like to be answered by the readers.

Forget about the gender thing, I think both belongs to the same planet and must share a harmonious relationship by understanding and respecting each other.With that note I would like to share this quote

“The only way for a woman, as for a man, to find herself, to know herself as a person, is by creative work of her own. There is no other way,” by Betty Friedan.

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What Man Want?

Contradictory to ‘’Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars’’, actually the fact is both are from same planet Earth and are not aliens. Keeping gender away from the pen,I am writing for men. We have been talking about the women’s exploitation, hurt, tolerance and other social issues related to women and forgot the other counter gender part. They have been victimized, misunderstood and agitated in relationships because of the lack of communication and expressions.









Who have not heard this phrase ‘’ Behind every successful man there is a woman’’ and actually want his woman to stand behind him for all her love and support but if the same woman tries to stand in front of him and try to pull him forward then the scenario would be different and would never prefer woman to overpower his ego. He wants his woman to work backstage though he always want her to smile and want to see her happy but he actually need to peep inside what is going on in her mind and what is important for her.









Man wants his women to listen to him, his needs and his silence, he wants her life revolving around him and even woman wants that. I am not flumping any of the gender instead , I believe that god created them this way only. Turn over the pages of history; we will come to know about the patience, tolerance, devotion of women towards her family. In return she lost her identity….Sita mata  swallowed by the earth to let her free from all the sufferings of womanhood; Sati entered in fire to prove her love and respect for Lord Shiva and Savitri pulled her husband from the mouth of death. Man wants his wife to prove herself irrespective of era.









He wants his woman to give her all the time and love and care to him and his family without nagging and complaining him. Man usually compares his wife with his mother and wants to love his wife more than his father did to his mother. It might be a    hypothesis but based on some facts and psychological aspect that is Oedipus Complex which says that a boy loves his mother and competes with his father to get all her love.He compares his wife with his mother but the fact is mother is mother and a wife can never compete with the mother.












Women expresses her hurt component in the form of tears, anger but men rarely trigger his tear glands to cry as ‘’men never supposed to cry’’, though he cry without tears and burst into anger and hurt others or if he tried to overpower his emotions, he would prefer to be alone and any disturbance in his that state of mind could lead to conflicts.








Because of his inherently indued egoistic nature men rarely show their concealed soft hearted nature and  share their emotions of sorrows and weakness in front of others on contrary women expresses their heart out to the closed ones, cry for letting out her emotions and negativity and then normalize but a man carries a lot of weight on his chest and  that is the reason ,he is more prone to heart breaks and aches.









Besides this every women must know what his man wants and vice versa to live a harmonious relationship and a balanced life. Usually conflicts arise due to sheer differences in perceptions on the individual level and often gender based but interestingly ‘’opposite attract each other’’ in real life as the magnetic forces do exist in relationship between men and women too.Often men get attracted to the beautiful looks and pleasing personalities initially but he prefers to live honestly and loyal with the one who is passionate and caring.




So whether it men or women ACCEPT AND ADJUST philosophy works for both of them. A man wants his wife to be happy always and if he failed to do that then he feel frustrated and then vicious circle of unhappiness and frustration goes on. One really needs to work very hard to break that vicious circle. Understanding mutually could stop the debate on what man wants and what woman wants.

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